Sex, Love & Self Esteem

“Listen up. If you have a daughter, I know you have questions. This is the place for answers. Lily is direct, honest and unflinching – just the kind of no BS approach we need. Do yourself, and your family, a favour.”

-Alex Right- Father

 

“Amazing, educational, funny, delightful, inspiring, hopeful. “

-Kim – Mother NSW

 

As a parent, the last thing you want to think about is your daughter being sexually active.

But, just for a moment, let me invite you to imagine this….

 

Imagine your daughter is 35 years old, a grown woman.

She might have a partner, a career, maybe a home, a car, a mortgage – loads of grown up responsibilities. She may have travelled the world, or maybe she has never left the state.  She could be the CEO of an empire, or a stay at home mum, the CEO of a smaller empire.

She may have had one relationship, or she may have had many.

Let’s imagine, just for a moment, that you could ask her to describe the quality of her past sexual experiences & the quality of her current sexual relationship (with others & herself).

 

What kinds of words would you like her to use?

Fulfilling, satisfying, pleasurable, empowering, loving… Safe?

Or

Confusing, bewildering, shame-filled, unsatisfying, unsafe… Numb?

 

As parents, we have to look at the long term outcomes we want for our children, in terms of their sexual experience. It has to be about more than preventing an unwanted pregnancy or staying safe from an STI. It has to be about feeling empowered to make informed, strong choices that lead to safe & joy filled outcomes.

Young people have to WANT to choose to stay safe, because it feels BETTER than the alternative.

But how do we get them to make the choices that lead to that road?

We have to start having a different kind of conversation.

We have to start meeting them where they are.

We have to start respecting their right for REAL information.

We have to tell them the TRUTH.

We need to teach our children that sexuality is a unique and beautiful facet of human existence. That exploration is a healthy way to experience their sexuality. That their bodies have an innate ability to experience pleasure – and that this pleasure is their right. That a combination of self awareness & strong communication is THE most effective way to navigate safe sexual experiences.

We have to tell them what it may have taken us years to figure out as adults.

 

If your first reaction is “I can’t have THOSE kinds of conversations with my daughter!” – don’t worry, you are not alone. We have spoken to hundreds of parents, who, just like you, want the best for their girls, but are completely bewildered by how to go about it.

The Sex, Love & Self Esteem parents forum was designed just for you.

In a few short hours we are going to show you:

  • What a girl’s world is really like
    • the cyber environment
    • the school environment
    • the hook up culture
    • media indoctrination
    • body image standards
    • and more….
  • What girls are accessing online
  • Accurate anatomy  & how to teach your daughter about her own body
  • How to foster relationship skills
  • Ways to inspire confidence – the kind of confidence that leads to strong, independent decision making.
  • The importance of TRUE consent & how to navigate sexual encounters safely
  • Fun, relevant & easy conversation starters
  • Ways to deal with “Oh my god, did she really ask that???” moments
  • Appropriate developmental stages to begin conversations
  • How to start these converstaions and keep them going
  • Online & hard copy resources
  • Where to go when:
    • you don’t have THE answer
    • things don’t go well for your daughter
    • you cannot be the person she talks to

But most importantly, we are going to show you how to feel CONFIDENT in your own ability as a parent, to navigate this beautiful territory with your blossoming daughter. You will leave this workshop with real information, new skills & a deeper understanding of your daughter’s world.

 

” Lily isobella is a skilled facilitator enabling a group of parents with diverse views and life experience to navigate a sensitive topic with respect and robust discussion. Lily was well researched on her topic, not only with the stats within Australia on rape, porn, and age of loss of virginity, but also about how the education of young people about sex differed across cultures and countries. 

We were able to learn about the gaps in our knowledge and also how to sensitively guide our beloved young people through what we hope to be a very special time in their lives – one that has the potential to be very challenging as they begin to really navigate personal boundaries, preferences, love and respect in a very intimate way. 

Thank you Lily for a great workshop I look forward to attending and learning more.”

-Karen Plumbe – Mother & Health Program Director-

 

“Brilliant evening, fabulous discussion, lovely people. Thank you Lily, you are an inspiration, and bloody gorgeous to boot”

Susannah Larissa – Mother, Educator

 

Sex, Love & Self Esteem Parent’s Forums run for 4 hours, on a weeday evening, in a city near you. These are 18+ events and tickets are essential.  

If you cannot find a Forum near you, feel free to talk to us about coming to you.

We welcome educators and service providers as a valuable addition to the Forum. If your school or service would like to send a staff member, please talk to us about institute tickets.

 

“An amazingly refreshing evening – loved the frank conversations, laughter and shared information. The Forum was a truly great parental experience – giving direction, support and pragmatic advice on how to raise resilient girls filled to the brim with self-esteem and kick-ass attitude. Truly loved the night! Thank you!”

– Mother NSW

Upcoming events:

Mullumbimby: Civic Hall. Tuesday September 5th,  6 – 10pm (Purchase here) 

Coffs Harbour : Dark Arts. Wednesday September 20th,  6 – 10pm (Purchase here)

Armidale: Hughes & Kent House. Thursday October 19th, 6 – 10pm (Purchase here)

Brisbane – TBA

Gold Coast – TBA

Melbourne – TBA

 

FAQ’s

Does my daughter have to be a certain age for me to attend?

NO.  Healthy conversations pertaining to body image, pleasure, sexuality, safety, self care & respect start from BIRTH. It is never too early to start. Conversely, it is never too late. If you are parenting a teenager, NOW is the time to get skilled!

 

Are dad’s welcome?

ABSOLUTELY. Part of a girl’s sexual education will come from her male role models. We whole heartedly encourage dads to be a major part of this conversation.  If you are a dad parenting alone, this forum will be game changing for you.

PS: we offer a huge discount if both parents attend together.

 

Can my child attend and just sit at the back of the room?

No. This is strictly an 18+ event and is not suitable for any child to attend.

 

I have sons, is this appropriate for me?

While we will be offering forums for parents of boys later on, this space can be extremely informative for ALL parents.

 

I don’t have children yet, but I want to be ready. Can I come along?

We welcome parents, educators, social workers & parents to be. We congratulate you on your choice to be proactive!

I am not completely confident in choosing to attend – what if I get uncomfortable?

This is an in depth discussion pertaining to sexuality. The material has the potential to trigger some feelings in you. Please act responsibly at all times. It is absolutely fine to remove yourself from the conversation at any time, or even step outside for a breather.

 

I still have questions….

Please email lily HERE